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We, as a society, have a tendency to tell our children what is impossible or not feasible based on an adult's perception of reality. Fine. Informing children on the science of gravity does seem important. As does what will happen if certain chemicals/solutions are ingested. Since we, as a society, find it necessary to insure that children recognize early the difference between 'real' and 'imaginary,' do we insist on leading those vulnerable, highly impressionable children to believe in fiction as fact? Does Santa Claus ring a bell? How about the Easter Bunny? The Tooth Fairy?

I was never led to believe that someone else's obvious 'hallucinations' were real--and I survived and maintained being a child without holding such delusions. I know, some may believe that these imaginary figures are not harmful and are a 'natural' facet of childhood. Whatever! How devastated I would be if I had had to find out, by my peers, that my parents had LIED to me.

Children are HIGHLY creative individuals who are able to discern their reality from their 'play' world. The growth during childhood is so rapid; the physical changes are tremendous as are the development of mental faculties. Let us not make their life any more challenging by having them have to question the validity of their caregivers.

This may seem arbitrary to some, but try to recall being a child. Try to recall how frustrating it was not to be able to communicate what was felt. Try to recall how events in your childhood affected 'you' today. Try to recall how much growing you did in such a short period of time and how remarkable, yet scary, it seemed at times. Children don't need the illusion of Santa or the Tooth Fairy. Children need people in their life that are real--that are stable--that are loving--and that they know that they can trust.

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